Claiming my Hot Girl Summer
“Hot Girl Summer isn’t about looking hot and having a supermodel body as you might imagine, but mainly it’s about feeling confident and yourself …”
Being hot is a mindset, people.
Words: Aimee Carmichael
“Summer 2021 is here, we’re out of lockdown, we’re vaccinated (well most of us are) and we’re ready to get back to normal life. Most importantly we are claiming our Hot Girl Summer. Well, I am definitely claiming mine.
Hot Girl Summer essentially is being free, young & wild. Doing whatever you want, whenever you want. The phrase Hot Girl Summer was coined by Megan Thee Stallion in 2019, so it has been around for a while but this summer everyone seems to be claiming 2021 as their Hot Girl Summer. Used as a way to describe men and women being unapologetically themselves. Hot Girl Summer isn’t just about looking hot and having a supermodel body like you would imagine when you hear the words ‘Hot Girl.’ Mainly it’s about feeling confident and feeling more yourself.
Post Pandemic life has meant I am ready to get out of the house and get back into a normal (or as close to normal) life and even back into the dating world. I have confidence I never had before, I feel good in my body and with how I look for maybe the first time ever. Most importantly I’m ready to get back to life.
“It is also the year of reclaiming sex, while many of us were alone for most of the pandemic when the government announced the no hugging ban and that unless you were already in a couple you couldn’t have sex”
Trying to claim my Hot Girl Summer has meant I’ve found myself not caring what people think. I have this newfound confidence that’s making me not afraid of judgemental eyes. I’m wearing what I want when I want. Now I’ll go to the gym in a sports bra and leggings and feel so sexy and confident in myself even when I am a sweaty mess. I’m not wearing this to show off or catch guys' attention, I'm wearing it for me because I feel good. Before covid, I would never have done this. I would have been too nervous to bear my stomach in a public place but now I don’t care. I’m owning how I look and feeling confident while I do it.
I think all these months indoors has made me want to go out and show off. I’m now drawn to more figure-hugging pieces, or crop tops which are pieces I would have picked up, looked at then walked off in silent disappointment because I never felt confident enough to wear them. Now I can’t get enough. I’m raiding my younger sister's wardrobe because I’m sick of wearing frumpy, loungewear. I’m ready to bare some skin. I’ve lost a year indoors where no one could see how I looked so this summer I’m baring all.
It is also the year of reclaiming sex, while many of us were alone for most of the pandemic when the government announced the no hugging ban and that unless you were already in a couple you couldn’t have sex. Anyone who did have sex had to quarantine and wear a mask.. yes even during sex and that is not sexy at all. So when sex became as impossible as trying to go on holiday it was easier to go without.
“I feel good in my body and with how I look for maybe the first time ever”
Now it feels like the possibility of sex is in the air. Going through a lockdown situationship and then a situationship-breakup just as the second, then third lockdown hit made it hard to get over him by meeting someone new. I couldn’t do the whole getting under someone to get over someone. Meaning I had time to sit with the heartbreak but I also longed to flirt with someone new. So now I’m not holding back. I’m longing for that feeling of being desired by a new man.
Having forgotten completely how to make small talk and even flirting. I am making the most of this newfound freedom and flirting with every man I meet even if it’s bad flirting. I miss the feeling of someone’s eyes on me and the touch of a man, even the scent of a man post-sex.
For me, having a Hot Girl Summer is not all about looking and feeling good while yes I have a variety of clothing that makes me feel sexy, ready to just throw on and I have joined the apps again and had a few flirty messages with a few cute guys. For me, this summer is also about reclaiming my life. I’m taking control of my finances (boring I know), finding my passions, getting back into healthy eating and exercising and going for my dream career path.
This year I’m claiming my Hot Girl Summer and I hope you are too.”
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To read more from Aimee, you can find her on her blog aimeesarahcarmichael.com or on Instagram at @aimeesarahcarmichael.